OK I need some feedback here. I have been getting some questions about certain issues some of you are facing, so I will let you all help me with this one. It's a tough one. In the swinging lifestyle, we have all encountered the strange and the ridiculous; we can all recall embarrassing moments (passing gas while being eaten), the shocking moments (first time a lady squirted all over me), and uncomfortable moments… bad breath. But in this article -- prompted by your questions -- I would like to address the unspeakable issue.
The letter that got me going on this subject went something like this:
Lady Suzanne, "I wonder if anyone has been in this situation before. I went out with a girlfriend and when I put my finger in her pussy. OMG, I almost passed out from the smell. It was a buzz kill and I went limp. I started to think about what to say, but came up with nothing. I wanted to fuck her, but I just could NOT. So I told her that I had a headache and that I could not play. So, what was I suppose to say. 'Hey baby, your pussy stinks, go wash it'? LOL
What is the best way to address this? How do you say it without killing the mood or offending her? I offered for both of us to go in the whirlpool, but she refused. Believe me, I could not think of a way to address this without sounding like an asshole. "
I responded by saying, "the mood was already killed, so the truth could not hurt at this point."
However it is hard to tell someone they have any odor problem. There are many people who still have body odor (even in this age of deodorants and body creams). They go dancing, get excited and POW, there it is! I remember issues like this in high school so I am always amazed as adults and in the lifestyle it still comes up. At the club one night a couple approached us and said, "how do we tell that couple they have body odor. They are very nice and have asked us to go to the after party room, but YUCK!"
I suggested they ask the DJ to play the song by Lynrd Skynrd “Smell that Smell.” (Evil grin.) OK, what I did tell them was to say “no thanks.”
Is it just bad hygiene or is it BV, Bacterial Vaginosis? This is the name of a condition in women where the normal balance of bacteria in the vagina is disrupted and replaced by an overgrowth of certain bacteria. It is many times accompanied by discharge, strong odor, itching and pain. Not much is known about how women get BV and there are many unanswered questions but any woman can get it. Here are some activities that can upset the normal balance: Having a new sex partner, or multiple partners. Now we do not know anyone like that do we? You can do too much douching. Remember the stuff in a douche can also strip away your natural juices so go very easy on them. This includes those quick clean up wipes. Also using an IUD for contraception can cause the imbalance. I read one article that said “women who never have sexual intercourse are rarely affected.” So what to do? Go see your doctor if you think you have BV, it is treatable.
But what about now! What about being in a play situation and the odor is there? I am not talking the regular female odor I am talking about the odor that kicks you out of the room. I personally would rather have a friend tell me or my partner. If I am unsure I always go clean up. We have a product called Cum Clean that we have the bathrooms at the club. It is refreshing way to clean up after a night of dancing and partying. Do remember, too much of this cum clean can also cause the problem. Also when we have house parties, getting into the hot tub is a perfect way to freshen the day's wear.
We have met women who just seem to have no nose. They cannot tell when they are "daisy fresh" -- and when they are not. What then? I will start with a few ideas then I would like you to share what has happened to you and how you have handled the situation or how you would handle the situation.
You might mention before you play, “I think I will go freshen up.” And hope she does the same.
If you have a relationship with this lady say, “I am concerned, I have noticed a change in your body odor, it is different”… maybe mention seeing her physician.
Mention you like her and are having a good time, then explain the concern.
Has anyone else here dealt with this problem? How did you handle it? We can all learn from each other and make swinging fun, and odor free. So help me out and share what you have done or some ideas in the comments section below.
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